Practicing Gentleness -Matt 5:5

In the last post on Matthew 5:5 (you can read it here) we started to define meekness (or gentleness) as God defines it. We saw that we must be meek toward God in his will and his Word. But this is only the beginning. Our meekness must extend to humanity. We must be meek toward others. But what does meekness look like practically? In this post I’d like to give you three practical character qualities of a meek Christian.

First, showing meekness is a godly response when others hurt us.

Psalm 38:12-15 says,

Those who seek my life lay their snares;
those who seek my hurt speak of ruin
and meditate treachery all day long.
But I am like a deaf man; I do not hear,
like a mute man who does not open his mouth.
I have become like a man who does not hear,
and in whose mouth are no rebukes.
But for you, O Lord, do I wait;
it is you, O Lord my God, who will answer. (ESV)

The meek in spirit do not rush to defend themselves when wronged; they instead wait upon the Lord. Some wrong responses when others hurt us:

1. We are a hot-head.

Eccl. 7:9, “Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools.

Thomas Watson, “Meekness, like wet tinder, will not easily take fire.” This is the spirit of meekness. If you have a short fuse with your temper, this shows a lack of meekness.

Eph 4:26-27, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.”

Some may claim, using this verse, that anger is not a sin. Now I agree that not all anger is sin. But the anger that is not sin, is anger at sin—a holy anger. It was a holy zeal that provoked Jesus’ anger in John 2:14-17. This is not the case for the one who is hasty and selfish in his anger.

2. We are fork-tongued.

Eph 4:29-31, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.”

These verses speak of the sinful ways that the tongue is used and the godly responses that should take their place.

James 3:6, “And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell.”

Our tongues are the fire that is in our mouths and it is Satan that lights the match! Those that are meek do not use their tongues for striking out at those who have hurt them. As Eph 4:29 said, we are to use our tongues to build up, not tear down. This is the way of those who are meek in spirit.

Now, does anyone think that a person who can do this is weak?

Some may object that if we don’t do something to protect ourselves, then people will walk all over us and we will lose all respect in other’s eyes. But to overlook an offense done against us without reacting sinfully actually adds to the respect others have of us.

Prov. 19:11 says, “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.”

Second, showing meekness is forgiving those who hurt us.

Mark 11:25, “And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”

It has been said that a meek spirit is a forgiving spirit.

Forgiveness must be 3 things:

1. Our Forgiveness should be Actual-Not saying we forgive, while keeping a record of wrongs.

Isa 43:25 says, ““I, I am he who blots out your transgressions for my own sake, and I will not remember your sins.”

Friends, God forgives us.

Jeremiah 31:34 likewise says, “And no longer shall each one teach his neighbor and each his brother, saying, ‘Know the Lord,’ for they shall all know me, from the least of them to the greatest, declares the Lord. For I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more.”

God forgives us! And that should make a difference in our interactions with others around us who have sinned against us, shouldn’t it?

In Matt 18:21-35, we find the scenario where Peter thought that he was being very devout when he suggested to Jesus that they forgive the sins of others against him 7 times. For sure, this was more forgiving than most religious people would have been. But it didn’t line up with grace. Jesus then told them a story about forgiveness. You should read it on your own. The conclusion? We forgive, because God forgave us!

2. Our Forgiveness should be Total-All sins against us

Ps 103:1-5 is amazing. It says,

Bless the Lord, O my soul,
and all that is within me,
bless his holy name!
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits,
who forgives all your iniquity,
who heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit,
who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy,
who satisfies you with good
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

God wiped out all our sins. He didn’t pass over the lesser ones and retain your guilt for the greater ones. Would you have God forgive your trespasses as you have forgiven others?

3. Our Forgiveness should be Habitual-Ongoing sin requires ongoing forgiveness on our part.

Isa 55:7 says, “let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the Lord, that he may have compassion on him, and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.”

God’s pardon of sin is abundant because our sins are abundant. The meek must likewise be constantly and abundantly pardoning sins that are done against us.

Thirdly, showing meekness is not demanding our rights.

The meek person does not make demands for his privileges, position or his status in life. Realizing that this is foreign in the world we live in, D.A. Carson paints a clear picture of the radical way living like this differs from the mainstream:

“Individually, each man tends to assume, without thinking, that he is at the center of the universe; therefore he relates poorly to the four billion others who are laboring under a similar delusion. But the meek man sees himself and all others under God. Since he is poor in spirit, he does not think more highly of himself than he ought to. Therefore he is able to relate well to others.”

Phil 2:3-8, reminds us that this command to be meek is firmly based upon the example of Christ The Christian who is meek, therefore, cannot be sensitive about himself. He can’t be always on the defensive about what others think and say about him. When a person is meek, he has come to the end of himself—he does not worry about what other people say about him.

1Pet 2:22-24 shows us the incredible strength that was evident in Jesus’ meekness. He was wronged like none of us have ever been wronged. Yet, he who surely had the right to speak, yet never did. But what are we to do?—Luke 14:11 says, “For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” Humble ourselves before God.

But, this is impossible you say? Yes, for the natural man.

But the natural man will not inherit the kingdom of God. Jesus told Nicodemus—John 3:5, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.” Matt 5:5 says that the meek shall inherit the earth, though, not the kingdom of God. But there will be a day when this old earth will be renewed. It will be replaced by a New heaven and a New earth (Rev 21:1-4).

It is this New Heaven and New Earth that the meek shall inherit. None of us shall deserve it. But we shall receive it from the good hand of God. We are poor in spirit. We mourn over our sins. We are meek in the presence of God and men. In all three of these, we have taken the spotlight off of ourselves and placed it squarely where it belongs—on our Savior Jesus Christ. To Him alone be the glory!

Listening to the Lord Speak-Psalm 85:8 (Study Notes)

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Summary: Having laid out his prayer reciting the past mercies of the Lord (vv. 1-3) and the present situation (vv. 4-7), the psalmist does what all followers of Christ need to do, he sits back and waits, listening for the voice of the Lord (v. 8). In this fast-paced, hectic world that we live in, stopping to listen to the Lord as He speaks to us in His Word through the Spirit is a difficult task. This lesson will seek to give practical ways in which we listen to the voice of the Lord from His Word, the Bible.

Lesson:

Stop and listen to the Lord (v. 8a; Ps 119:98-99)

  • Rom 12:2 – We need to be changed and renewed.
  • 1Kings 19:11-13 –We must stop and listen. The problem is not His speaking, but our listening. He will not normally force us to listen to him, but comes quietly and waits for us to listen.
  • “The reason we come away so cold from reading the Word is, because we do not warm ourselves at the fire of meditation.”[i]

Remove distractions

  • Environmental—Elijah (1Kings 19:1-13); Jesus (Matt 4:1-2, 12; 14:13, 23)
  • Business/busyness—Martha (Luke 10:38-41); Unnamed men (Luke 9:57-62)
  • Amusements—Time wasters (Eph 5:15-16; Matt 16:26)

Prepare your heart

  • Thankfulness and praise (Ps 95:2; 100:4)
  • Dependence (Ps 119:18; Jn 14:26)

Read small portions of Scripture slowly and methodically.

  • Slower is better.
  • Ps 1:2-3—Drawing up water and producing fruit is a slow and steady process.
  • Meditate on those passages. Meditation is rumination on truth. Illust. Cows chewing; tea bags steeping.
  • “Our age has been sadly deficient in what may be termed spiritual greatness. At the root of this is the modern disease of shallowness. We are all too impatient to meditate on the faith we profess….It is not the busy skimming over religious books or the careless hastening through religious duties which makes for a strong Christian faith. Rather, it is unhurried meditation on gospel truths and the exposing of our minds to these truths that yields the fruit of sanctified character.”[ii]
  • Read seeking to understand God’s message as it was intended for the original audience. You cannot understand what it means for you, until you understand what it means for “them.”
  • Having understood what God’s Word means, apply the meaning to your life with a heart of humble obedience (Josh 1:8; Jam 1:22-25; Heb 4:12-13).
  • “Take every word as spoken to yourselves. When the word thunders against sin, think thus: “God means my sins;” when it presseth any duty, “God intends me in this.” Many put off Scripture from themselves, as if it only concerned those who lived in the time when it was written; but if you intend to profit by the word, bring it home to yourselves: a good medicine will do no good, unless it be applied.”[iii]

[i] Thomas Watson, “How We May Read the Scriptures with Most Spiritual Profit,” in Puritan Sermons (1674; reprint, Wheaton IL: Richard Owen Roberts, 1981), vol. 2, 62.

[ii] Maurice Roberts, “O the Depth!” The Banner of Truth, July 1990, 2.

[iii] Watson, 65.

Being About the Father’s Business (Repost)

Keep about your work. Do not flinch because the lion roars; do not stop to stone the devil’s dogs; do not fool away your time chasing the devil’s rabbits. Do your work. Let liars lie, let sectarians quarrel, let the devil do his worst; but see to it nothing hinders you from fulfilling the work God has given you

He has not commanded you to get rich. He has never bidden you to defend your character. He has not set you at work to contradict falsehood about yourself which Satan and his servants may start to peddle. If you do those things, you will do nothing else; you will be at work for yourself and not for the Lord

Keep at your work. Let your aim be as steady as a star. You may be assaulted, wronged, insulted, slandered, wounded, and rejected; you may be abused by foes, forsaken by friends, and despised  and rejected of men. But see to it with steadfast determination, with unfaltering zeal, that you pursue the great purpose of your life and object of your being until at last you can say, “I have finished the work which Thou gavest me to do.”–Author Unknown

The Inheritance of the Meek-Matthew 5:5

Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.- Matthew 5:5

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A. W. Tozer once wrote, The meek man is not a human mouse afflicted with a sense of his own inferiority. Rather he may be in his moral life as bold as a lion and as strong as Samson; but he has stopped being fooled about himself. He has accepted God’s estimate of his own life. He knows he is as weak and helpless as God declared him to be, but paradoxically, he knows at the same time that he is in the sight of God of more importance than angels. In himself, nothing; in God, everything. That is his motto.

Some confuse meekness with a wimpiness. They think that a meek person could be knocked down by a slap with a wet noodle. Others think that a meek person is always inoffensive to the point of compromise. This idea says that a meek person wants everyone to get along and to be liked by everyone no matter the cost. Another popular idea sees a meek person as a doormat. He is the one who is so weak-willed that he has no ones respect, not even his dog’s.

But that’s not the way the Bible speaks of a meek person.

First, know that Meekness is a fruit of the Spirit (Gal 5:23), therefore it is not a natural disposition, but a supernatural grace. Sometimes we see an especially nice and gentle person, and we see them as being meek. There are some people born this way, but this is not biblical meekness. The Bible commands Christians to be meek, and therefore there is an expectation that all who call Jesus Lord be meek:

Titus 3:1-2: Remind them [servants of the Lord] to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work, to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.

Col. 3:12 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,

Eph. 4:1-2 I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,

2Tim. 2:24-25 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, table to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth,

Second, the Greek word for “meekness”-praus- is defined this way: “Not being overly impressed by a sense of one’s self-importance; gentle, humble, considerate, meek.”

So every Christian is called to be meek, or not overly impressed by a sense of our self-importance, but gentle and humble.

In any discussions regarding the Beatitudes, we must recognize that each one builds upon the one before.

We must first be poor in spirit (Matt. 5:3), knowing that we are sinners and cannot gain a righteous standing on our own in God’s eyes. We realize that we must come to God empty handed, asking for God’s mercy.

We must mourn over our sin (Matt 5:4). Because we have looked internally and have seen our spiritual poverty, we recognize how much we have offended a holy God and we mourn over this fact.

This realization of our unworthiness to receive mercy should have the result of making us humble and meek. We cannot be overly impressed with our self-importance when we view ourselves through the lens of Scriptures and the first two beatitudes.

Now this is where Jesus’ sermon really begins to turn up the heat and become really uncomfortable. Dr. Lloyd-Jones writes:

Now why is this? Because here we are reaching a point at which we begin to be concerned about other people. Let me put it like this. I can se my own utter nothingness and helplessness face-to-face with the demands of the gospel and the law of God. I am aware, when I am honest with myself, of the sin and the evil that are within me, and that drag me down. And I am ready to face both theses things. But how much more difficult it is to allow other people to say things like that about me! I instinctively resent it. We all of us prefer to condemn ourselves than to allow somebody else to condemn us. I say of myself that I am a sinner, it instinctively I do not like anybody else to say I am a sinner. That is the principle that is introduced at this point. So far, I myself have been looking at myself. Now, other people are looking at me, and I am in a relationship to them and they are doing certain things to me. How do I react to that? That is the matter which is dealt with at this point. I think you will aggress that this is more humbling and more humiliating than everything that has gone before. It is to allow other people to put the searchlight upon me instead of my doing it myself. [Studies in the Sermon on the Mount, p.54]

So, meekness relates to our reactions and attitudes towards others. In this, we are going to look at our meekness toward God and then in the next post our meekness toward other people.

First, our meekness toward God must include a submission to His will. There are times in our lives when things don’t turn out like we had hoped or planned. We are hurt, disappointed, and maybe even crushed and bitter. Meekness carries itself without murmuring or bitterness. Instead, it recognizes that the hand of God is good, even when we can’t see it as clearly as we would like to.

The meek heart recognizes that our heavenly Father is much more gracious and merciful than we deserve. Consider the response of old Eli (1Sam 3:18). We see a similar response in Mary (Luke 1:38).

Eli would have his whole family line wiped out. Mary’s dreams were radically altered ad she would live out her days with a cloud of scandal always over her head and whispers behind her back. But both accepted the will of the Lord with meekness.

Sometimes we can have the opposite attitude towards the will of God in our lives. We can have the attitude of Jonah (Jon 4:9). Like Jonah, we forget who we are, and how God has saved us out of the belly of hell and we declare with our attitudes, if not with our lips, that we deserve so much better.

So, our meekness toward God must include a submission to His will.

Secondly, our meekness towards God needs to be evident in our conformity to His Word. The spiritually meek desire their minds to be conformed to the mind of God. Conforming our minds to God’s Word means we do not quarrel with the instruction with the Word. Instead, the meek Christian wrestles with the corruptions and sins in his own heart.

How often it is the opposite. We can argue with the sermon, because we don’t like what God has said. We excuse it by getting mad at the preacher, or claim that “that’s just his interpretation of that verse.” In reality, we are not humbling ourselves before God’s Word. We are being proud and stiff-necked.

Consider the meek attitude of Cornelius in Acts 10:33. This gentile man was humble before the Word and ready to receive all that the Apostle Peter taught.

James 1:21 reminds us that we must put away our sins and all filthiness. That’s recognizing our spiritual poverty and mourning over our own sins, crying out to Jesus for forgiveness. But it doesn’t stop there. James 1:21 continues to say that we are to receive the implanted Word. It is this Word of God, implanted in us, that confronts us. The Word of God is not a part of us, it is outside of us. It needs to invade our hearts, to offend, to cut deeply, to get up in our face and speak the truth we refuse to see. When we allow that to happen, we must be meek. We must bow to the Word of God and stop arguing with it.

It’s time for an attitude check. How’s your attitude been with God? Don’t just look at the surface—go down deep. Be brutally honest.

Have you had a rotten attitude about your life and circumstances and shown it by being discontent? Do you believe you deserve better? You’re not being meek.

Have you gotten mad at God’s Word when it confronts your sin? When God calls you a liar, a spiritual harlot, a compromiser?

When God says through his Word that you have been a lazy servant, a disobedient slave or a luke-warm Christian, have you thought that God was talking to someone else, when he was looking right at you in his Word?

To be meek, we need to wrestle with our pride. We must go beyond a self-evaluation and allow God to evaluate us.

Next we will talk about how we meekly deal with others. But the basis for dealing with others is built upon our relationship with God. If can’t be meek in the presence of God, we will never be meek in the eyes of men.

“Although discipline is painful for a moment…”

“Although discipline is painful for a moment, it leads to lasting, restorative joy. As members of the church, we are all under church discipline in that we have submitted ourselves to the discipline of the church and attend weekly to the discipline of the preached Word. The first step of discipline is admonition, and we come each week because we know how desperately we need to be admonished, to repent of our sins, to reaffirm our confession of Christ, and to receive our Father’s assurance of pardon and benediction that carries us through the week, reminding us that our loving Father lifts up the light of His countenance upon us and makes His face to shine upon us that we might be blessed and kept to live coram Deo, before His smiling face.” – Burk Parsons